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a story

there was a time when
i saw myself
from the outside

the world i once loved
was far
inaccessible

you said
do what makes you burn
so i wrote

and i felt it

the slight touch on my skin
of the evening sun

the fresh air
on an early morning

i kept writing

i’ve been writing 
ever since

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polarities

When I write for myself, I do it for different reasons. Sometimes I write to force my brain to go slowly. Sometimes I write to make beauty out of something ugly. Sometimes I write to give back. Most of the time, I write to capture something: a moment, a thought, a feeling. I write to help my future self create the story of my life.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t trust my own memories; I’m not sure if I really remember things. I think I just keep attaching stories to what I feel, trying to make things fit. Life in real-time is confusing. Life’s just meant to be lived, too big to be understood. But sometimes, I need to understand. That’s why I write.

Today I’m writing to capture the strangest of times. Recent events have disrupted the order of our lives at high speed, making us see how fragile our society was in the first place. But the interesting piece is that I’m not sure how this applies to me. My mess was here before, and it comes from the inside.

For years now I’ve been searching for something, although I don’t know what it is. No matter where I am, I stay in the corner of the room and I look around, participating only partially, evaluating—from the outside. I guess I’ve been just adventuring; testing life as if it was a game. Now, I’m stuck in this weird, beta phase.

The truth is that I’m tired. More tired than ever. At some point, the adventure turned into a search. And it is an anxious, urgent one.

Perhaps this is what happens when you start being aware of your own age for the first time, of what it really means to grow older.

There are some things that I simply won’t be able to live. Some, I will experience only if I start quickly.

That realization hits me scary: the cost of opportunity of having a life with an expiration date. I guess I need to evaluate priorities now, to create a vision for myself and commit to it. To figure out what I want, as they say.  The problem is that in this period of my life I find myself unable to decide between options that seem both true, but incompatible. I feel trapped in these polarities all the time, unable to chose my path.

For example, option one: to keep pursuing what I thought was the love of my life.

Option two. To stop pursuing who doesn’t want me to.

Option one. To run away from what I knew to find who I really am.

Option two. To stop burning all my bridges. 

Option one. To fight my fear of other people.

Option two. To control my urge to be accepted by them.

Option one. To tell me I’m too good to be easily seen.

Option two. To consider that I might be actually seen, but not loved.

Trapped in between many things I am forced to stay still, and to keep observing. At least that’s something I know I can learn from all of this: to improve my ability to stay just here, in between. Undefined. Uncomfortable. Fluid. Ready to be curved.

I’m scared, but I know fear works differently when you don’t run from it. If you feel it, fear hurts—but it doesn’t destroy: it transforms. I choose to see fear as the ultimate tool of my biology. Fear gives me the extra push I need when I’m about to look at things so difficult to handle.

So, inspired by fear, I’m doing precisely that: looking at them. Just this time, I’m not writing to understand. Writing it is enough now. And time will unfold, doing the rest.

Los Angeles, California